There is an old quote that says:
“Holding onto anger, bitterness, revenge and unforgiveness is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die.”
While there is no general consensus on the origin of this quote, it is brilliant in its description of the human experience of unforgiveness. The words ring true to anyone who has ever struggled with anger, resentment, or unforgiveness, and the insight it provides can lead us to important truths about ourselves.
As anyone who has experienced deep-seated unforgiveness can attest, it brings about an immense burden in our lives. Unforgiveness is something we haul around with us like a scar we are unwilling to let heal. The more we fester in resentment and unforgiveness, the more we pick at the wound and prevent its healing. Eventually we become completely controlled by these emotions and our freedom is compromised. We poison ourselves. We are no longer able to build relationships without fear of betrayal. We have difficulty trusting, and we become wary of the intentions of others.
Sometimes the person we need to forgive is ourselves. We all make mistakes, and sometimes these mistakes can have lasting or even permanent consequences. This too can become damaging to our psyche and our ability to form healthy relationships with others.
No matter who the person is we need to forgive, I’m going to offe...
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