Many of us struggle with forgiveness, but it is simply a state of mind
Funerals are no place to hold a grudge. I learnt this the hard way last year after attending a number of funerals where people I had "phased out" of my life were also in attendance.
Squabbles seem very petty indeed when there's a eulogy being read - and it's hard to avoid someone's gaze when they're crying.
Reconciliation and funeral rites go hand-in-hand. It's an eventuality worth considering next time you have an estrangement with a loved one.
Many of us struggle with forgiveness. The trouble is that the initial slight eventually becomes a summary of all their wrongdoings.
We tell ourselves the same story over and over to validate our decision.
It's not a detailed report, though. It's a sensationalised front-page headline.
Sometimes we find cheerleaders - people who support our decision and agree that we have every reason to feel angry. Sometimes we seek revenge.
Yet, very rarely do we examine our own part in it. Yes, there are times when we are wronged plain and simple.
However, in the vast majority of cases, we are complicit in causing the rift, just as we are complacent about mending it.
Anger and ego make unbiased analysis near on impossible. Hence, when we fall out with a loved one, it's crucial to tell ourselves another story: the one they would tell. Next, tell yourself the story from an objective third person po...
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